Take the Step, the Bridge Will Be There by Grace Cirocco

Author:Grace Cirocco [Cirocco, Grace]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 978-1-4434-1441-8
Publisher: HarperCollins Canada
Published: 2012-01-15T00:00:00+00:00

HEAL THE INNER FAULT LINES

Running away from suffering intensifies it; denying suffering intensifies it;

wallowing in suffering intensifies it; blaming our suffering on others intensifies

it. Anesthetizing it will work for only so long. And emotional shutdown is

ultimately destructive to mind and body.

– GABRIELE RICO

Most people at first glance seem happy and together. They’re competent in at least some areas of their lives. They’ve learned how to play the game, they juggle their many roles and responsibilities and most of the time they appear to keep it all under control. But what the outside world doesn’t see is the fault lines on the inside, which are susceptible to pressure.

Earthquakes occur along fault lines. Pressure builds beneath the earth’s crust until the tectonic plates “slip” along a fault line and an earthquake results. In human terms, once sufficient stress has built up over time, the fault line will lead to a dramatic life event. The event could be, for example, a heart attack, diagnosis of a disease (the disease develops over time, of course, but its detection can be a shock) or the breakup of a marriage. By healing the fault line, however, we can pre-empt the dramatic event. If there is no fault line, no earthquake can happen.

Like Earth, we are riddled with internal fault lines. Unlike Earth, we have the potential to heal our fault lines one by one. What are these fault lines? They could be an abusive past, spiritual emptiness, feeling unwanted or unloved, clogged emotions, low self-esteem, anxiety, depression or loneliness.

In her book Pain and Possibility, Gabriele Rico talks about the death of her mother in a bombing raid when Rico was only seven years old. For many years she imagined there was a long, jagged crack across her heart, and she wondered if she would ever heal from it. As an adult Rico concludes, “we’re all damaged somehow, somewhere – the real issue is not whether, but how, we learn to deal with our damage.”1

When his parents divorced, my client Marco was only ten years old. For reasons that are still unclear to him, he was sent to live with relatives in Spain. They were mean to him. Both his father and mother remarried in his native Nicaragua, but they never sent for him. He grew up feeling abandoned and unloved.

It’s always when we’re at the threshold of change that the question of healing our past emerges. “Cross that bridge,” the nasty demons warn you, “but deal with us.”

“No, not today,” you reply. “I can’t face you today.” So you turn back. But Spirit grows impatient. It pushes you to take that step toward your destiny. Somewhere deep within you, you hear the voice saying, “It’s time.” As you look inside, you see a tarnished mirror reflecting back all the tears you’ve never cried, the hurts that never healed – an infinite well of sadness. No Band-Aids will work. The wounds are still fresh, even now, after so many years. They’ve been waiting for you, waiting for the day when you have the courage to face them and heal them.

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